Relationships

Lately, I have talked to so many girls that have been hurt by relationships (myself included). Not really long term relationships, but those short term relationships in which we invest so much of our hope and time. We allow ourselves to get so excited that something might actually work out, that when it doesn’t, we face that inevitable crash. And we are left in a mess of pieces. Our energy is gone, we feel like we can’t trust anyone, and it seems like the pieces will never go back together.

After that feeling is gone, we start to get angry- not at him, but at ourselves. “How could I be so dumb to think that would ever work out?” “Why did I ever open myself up to him?” It’s a tendency a girl has- to turn everything towards herself. Yes, we have those moments when we think, “guys stink,” but really we are thinking “what did I do so wrong?” or “how can I change.” That moment at hating the whole male segment of our population is really a cover up for all of those feelings we have within ourselves.

But I wonder what life would be like if we really reflected on one of the most popular verses:

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ~ Jeremiah 29:11

Today I turned that verse around:
“For I know the RELATIONSHIP I have for you,” declares the LORD, “a relationship that will prosper you and not harm you, a relationship full of hope and a future.”

(Now I am not promoting the rewording of any part of the Bible, but merely trying to apply the verse to the situation.) God’s plan isn’t for us to get our hearts dragged around by guy after guy, but to prepare our hearts for a relationship that glorifies Him, and thus one that will prosper ourselves.

So instead of turning the blame on ourselves, why don’t we look towards God, the one who has plans far better for us than we could ever have for ourselves?